The Importance of Spending TIME With Our Kids

Note:  If you are a parent or grandparent reading this, to provide you an incentive to spend some time just sitting down for awhile and enjoying some time together with a child or grandchild, for June and July we are joining with Ethos Bakery and Cafe to provide coupons good for a FREE BEVERAGE AND PASTRY of your choice when you visit their new bakery and cafe on the corner of Keene and Queensgate in Richland. Just mention to them you visited this website.

If I had my child to raise all over again, I’d build self-esteem first, and the house later. I’d finger-paint more, and point the finger less. I would do less correcting and more connecting. I’d take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes. I’d take more hikes and fly more kites. I’d stop playing serious, and seriously play. I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars. I’d do more hugging and less tugging.                                           – Diane Loomans

Diane Loomans’ words above beautifully capture the critical importance of simply spending time with our children – lots of time.  Many parents realize this too late in life. Child development experts will tell you that by spending this time with them we are naturally guiding, encouraging and teaching them by our own example. Near 80% of what kids learn is done in this way.  At the same time, our children are learning from us how to build strong, healthy relationships which, in turn, they can use in their own lives and teach to their children.

The more time we parents and caring adults spend with a child, the more we are apt to glimpse the tremendous potential that they possess – a potential we as parents and professionals too often underestimate, hinder, and sometimes even squelch without knowing.  So much of this potential is influenced by the type of parenting practices we use during the daily interaction with our children, and putting aside specific time for them.  This is even more critical for those children currently undergoing stressful times or changes in their lives, or kids considered to be on the margin socially.

Because of studies in the last couple decades, it is now very clear what profound influence our childhood experiences have on our success later in life.  Both our ability to create outer success and our ability to be happy and fulfilled inside are heavily influenced by early childhood circumstances and the type of daily interaction we had with our parents and the adults close to us. That love and caring message we demonstrate to our children is spelled T-I-M-E.  Given what a typical parent and child of today juggles during the day, it has become increasingly difficult for parents to find sufficient time for their kids.  That is why we parents must find ways in which to schedule our week so as to find more one-on-one time for our kids; and also find ways in which to allow our children to spend time with other caring adults that we trust will provide a positive example, whether it be a relative, a church youth group, or organization that specializes in the mentoring of kids.

Please do not fall for the fallacy that spending minimal time with a child is sufficient as long as that time is QUALITY time! For one, quality time can only be judged from our child’s perspective, and we do not have a magic wand to turn time into quality time; so we simply need to spend lots of time…period!

Today there is an overwhelming barrage of negative advertising, news, video games and television. Because of this overwhelming influence it has become absolutely critical that the adults that care for these children not only reduce and filter the negative media as much as practical, but spend a significant amount of time with them in order to counter the negative aspects of this media influence and pass on your cherished values.

As parents and adults of our community that have the responsibility (and, yes, the good fortune) to guide, teach, mentor and encourage our own children and the children of our neighbors, let us work together to help promote parents and caring adults to spend more time with kids.  Let us also work together to ensure that parents and caring adults have easy access to information and programs that result in our children getting the effective parenting and mentoring they need to grow into productive adults, to experience the life they deserve, and pass these positive qualities on to the children in their lives.

Mark Murphy                                                                                                  Executive Director of Mid-Columbia Parenting

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Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” 12-hour Workshop

Want to learn how to bring out the full potential in your children, and solve behavioral issues?

Mid-Columbia Parenting is presenting their full 12-hour Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” video series in January. This parenting workshop features Mac and Barbara Bledsoe (parents of pro quarterback Drew Bledsoe), and has been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, CBN, and other national and local radio and television programs.  Scholarly research shows that comprehensive workshops like these, which include role-play (and customized follow-up for each parent if desired), is the format that effectively builds your child and creates happy households.

These workshops cover every aspect of parenting for ages 1-18, and typically include a live Skype session with the Bledsoe’s.  Parents, grandparents, teachers and childcare providers will learn are how to raise children to:

▪   Build a strong self-concept/character
▪   Make the right decisions about behavior
▪   Withstand peer pressure
▪   Overcome today’s culture of sex, drugs, violence and apathy
▪   Become the best they can be, in every aspect of their lives (behaviorally, emotionally, socially, and academically)

As well as obtain the tools to be able to:
▪   Get children to obey without you having to demand obedience
▪   Communicate well with your teenager
▪   Have an effective discipline program and still maintain strong and loving relationships with your children
▪    Have a household free of arguing and conflict

Dates and Location:

Tuesday and Thursday evenings 6:30-8:00 pm starting Tuesday January 14th and ending February 13th at White Bluffs Elementary School in Richland.  Free 45 minute preview of workshop available January 7th at 6:30 PM at same location. Childcare available for age 5 through 5th grade for main workshop.  $40 donation suggested for entire series, and can be paid at workshop.  Register by calling Mark at 845-2092 or send your name and phone# to the info@midcolumbiaparenting.org email address (see link at bottom of this page). Include whether you desire childcare and for what ages.

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Mac Bledsoe speaking in Richland and Hermiston November 2nd and 4th

Author and Speaker Mac Bledsoe presents

“Happy Homes & Empty Prisons – It’s About the Ideas and Pictures In Our Child’s Head”

Parents, grandparents, teachers, mentors and childcare providers will be able to spend the evening with Mac Bledsoe when he will present a seminar titled Happy Homes and Empty Prisons – It’s About the Ideas and Pictures In Our Child’s Head”.   Mac will explain simple yet very effective principles on how we can influence our child’s “script” – their perception of the inner core of who they are as an individual, what they believe their capabilities or limitations are in all the various aspects of their lives, and their role in society. In the end it is more about building on the child’s assets, and less on fixing perceived deficits.

Mac and Barbara Bledsoe were teachers in the Mid-Columbia for 30 years, and are the parents of NFL quarterback Drew Bledsoe. Mac and his parenting and teaching principles have been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, and CBN. Their DVD set and two books have already helped over 4 million teachers and parents. Don’t miss one of the top inspirational speakers in the country.

Saturday November 2nd at 7:00 PM   First Baptist Church, 1107 Wright Avenue in Richland. $14 tickets available before Nov. 2 at Barracuda Coffee 2171 Van Giesen in Richland or online at Eventbrite.com. $15 at door

Monday November 4th at 7:00 PM   New Hope Church, 1350 S. Hwy 395 in Hermiston.  $14 tickets available before Nov. 4th at Alive & Well 2150 N. Hwy 395 in Hermiston or online at Eventbrite.com.  $15 at door

Contact Mark at 509-845-2092 for information.

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Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” Workshop starting Wednesday, Oct. 2nd

Mid-Columbia Parenting is presenting the Drew Bledsoe Foundation “Parenting with Dignity” video series. This parenting workshop features Mac and Barbara Bledsoe (parents of pro quarterback Drew Bledsoe), and has been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, CBN, and on countless other national and local radio and television programs. Scholarly research shows that comprehensive workshops like these, which include role play and customized followup for each parent if desired, is the format that effectively and permanently solves issues.

These workshops cover every aspect of parenting, and typically include a live Skype session with Mac Bledsoe. Parents, grandparents, teachers and childcare providers will learn are how to raise children to:

  • Make the right decisions about behavior
  • Overcome today’s culture of sex, drugs, violence and apathy
  • Become the best they can be, in every aspect of their lives (behaviorally, emotionally, socially, and academically)

As well as obtain the tools to be able to:

  • Get children to obey without you having to demand obedience
  • Communicate well with your teenager
  • Repair relationships with your children
  • Have an effective discipline program and still maintain strong and loving relationships with your children
  • Have a household free of arguing and conflict

Times are Monday and Wednesday evenings 6:30-8:00 pm starting Wednesday October 2nd and ending October 30th at the YMCA, 741 South Dayton St. Kennewick. Fee is $39. Register online at Eventbrite or contact Mark at 845-2092.

A free 45 minute preview of the workshop is available Monday September 30th at 6:30 PM at same location.

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Bledsoe Full-Length Workshops Starting in February

Mid-Columbia Parenting is presenting their full 12-hour Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” video series in February at two locations. This parenting workshop features Mac and Barbara Bledsoe (parents of pro quarterback Drew Bledsoe), and this program has been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, CBN, and on countless other national and local radio and television programs.

These workshops cover every aspect of parenting, and typically include a live Skype session with the Bledsoe’s.  Parents, grandparents, teachers and childcare providers will learn are how to raise children to:

▪   Build a strong self-concept/character
▪   Make the right decisions about behavior
▪   Withstand peer pressure
▪   Overcome today’s culture of sex, drugs, violence and apathy
▪   Become the best they can be, in every aspect of their lives (behaviorally, emotionally, socially, and academically)

As well as obtain the tools to be able to:
▪   Get children to obey without you having to demand obedience
▪   Communicate well with your teenager
▪   Have an effective discipline program and still maintain strong and loving relationships with your children
▪    Have a household free of arguing and conflict

Dates and Locations are:

Tuesday and Thursday evenings 6:30-8:30 pm starting February 12th and ending February 28th at the YMCA, 741 South Dayton St.  Kennewick.   Fee is $30. Register online at midcolumbiaparenting.org or contact Mark at 845-2092.

Saturday afternoons 12:45 to 4:45 PM starting February 9th and ending February 23rd at the SECU building, 807 W. Vineyard in Kennewick (next to bowling alley).   Fee is $30. Register online at midcolumbiaparenting.org or contact Mark at 845-2092.

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Bledsoe Parenting with Dignity Workshop – Kennewick

Mid-Columbia Parenting is presenting their full 12-hour Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” video series starting February 9th. This parenting workshop features Mac and Barbara Bledsoe (parents of pro quarterback Drew Bledsoe), and this program has been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, CBN, and on countless other national and local radio and television programs.

These workshops cover every aspect of parenting, and typically include a live Skype session with the Bledsoe’s.  Parents, grandparents, teachers and childcare providers will learn are how to raise children to:

▪   Build a strong self-concept/character
▪   Make the right decisions about behavior
▪   Withstand peer pressure
▪   Overcome today’s culture of sex, drugs, violence and apathy
▪   Become the best they can be, in every aspect of their lives (behaviorally, emotionally, socially, and academically)

As well as obtain the tools to be able to:
▪   Get children to obey without you having to demand obedience
▪   Communicate well with your teenager
▪   Have an effective discipline program and still maintain strong and loving relationships with your children
▪    Have a household free of arguing and conflict

Date and Location:

Saturday afternoons 12:45 to 4:45 PM starting February 9th and ending February 23rd at the SECU building, 807 W. Vineyard in Kennewick (next to bowling alley).   Fee is $30. Register online at midcolumbiaparenting.org or contact Mark at 845-2092.

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Bledsoe Parenting with Dignity Workshop – Kennewick

Mid-Columbia Parenting is presenting their full 12-hour Bledsoe “Parenting with Dignity” video series starting February 12th. This parenting workshop features Mac and Barbara Bledsoe (parents of pro quarterback Drew Bledsoe), and this program has been featured on the TODAY Show, ABC’s 20/20, CBN, and on countless other national and local radio and television programs.

These workshops cover every aspect of parenting, and typically include a live Skype session with the Bledsoe’s.  Parents, grandparents, teachers and childcare providers will learn are how to raise children to:

▪   Build a strong self-concept/character
▪   Make the right decisions about behavior
▪   Withstand peer pressure
▪   Overcome today’s culture of sex, drugs, violence and apathy
▪   Become the best they can be, in every aspect of their lives (behaviorally, emotionally, socially, and academically)

As well as obtain the tools to be able to:
▪   Get children to obey without you having to demand obedience
▪   Communicate well with your teenager
▪   Have an effective discipline program and still maintain strong and loving relationships with your children
▪    Have a household free of arguing and conflict

Date and Location:

Tuesday and Thursday evenings 6:30-8:30 pm starting February 12th and ending February 28th at the YMCA, 741 South Dayton St.  Kennewick.   Fee is $30. Register online at midcolumbiaparenting.org or contact Mark at 845-2092.

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Tri-Cities Family Expo January 25 & 26

Come visit the 2013 Tri-Cities Family Expo. This is a great family event with live entertainment and interactive activities throughout the event.

TRAC on Burden Road

Pasco, WA Friday, January 25: 12:00 pm – 8:00 pm Saturday, January 26: 10:00 am – 5:00 pm

 For more information, visit the Expo website at tcfamilyexpo.com

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Being an Effective Parent in Today’s Culture

The first workshop is Mac on video and titled “Being an Effective Parent in Today’s Culture”.  Today’s family structure, typical home environment, and impact of media influence are not what our parents and grandparents experienced in the mid to late 1900s.   Today, the average American 12-year old child has watched over 100,000 acts of violence, including over 8000 murders.  Approximately 17% of 10-11 year olds are exposed to pornography unintentionally, and 80% of 12-17 year olds have viewed pornography.  10% of kids try marijuana before age 13, and over 22% of kids are using it.  Each year, approximately three million kids, aged 12 to 17, either think seriously about suicide or attempt suicide. This first Workshop will show parents how to raise responsible, independent children of strong character that influence the culture instead of negative aspects of today’s culture influencing them.  It will show parents how do get children to NOT reject Mom and Dad and their values, and how to build and maintain (or repair) strong parent/child relationships.  Effective for parents with children ages 1-18.

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Effective Discipline While Building Strong Parent/Child Relationships

What has happened over the years is that some discipline methods have become popular because they have been perceived as effective, although in reality parents did not know that they were ineffective in the long-term.  The best example of this is corporal punishment, usually in the form of hitting or spanking, which has been used by a majority of parents for decades.  This discipline method has been popular in American society for two main reasons:  1) It can be used immediately without work or thought by the parent and, 2) It usually works as intended – to modify the behavior.   However, numerous studies show very clearly that corporal punishment only modifies the behavior for the very short-term, not long-term; and the method is associated with the tragic byproduct of disintegration of the parent/child relationship and a less happy, less successful child.  Mac Bledsoe will present what many experts believe is the most effective discipline method in existence, which builds and maintains strong parent/child relationships, and which preserves the dignity of both parent and child.  If parents use this natural discipline method they will realize that it feels natural, that it makes common sense, and so parents are not continually feeling guilty for making what they feel were wrong choices about their discipline methods.  Parents attending this workshop are encouraged to attend the first workshop as well.  Effective for parents with children ages 1-18.

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